I just wanted to say that you shouldn't just try to sort this out between the two (or three) of you. Seek out and talk to a relationship councillor - i.e. someone who actually specializes in relationships. Advice here can be hit or miss but if the relationship is important to both of you then you owe it to each other to put your best efforts forward. A councillor can help you both to become aware of and understand issues that neither of you may have considered.