ok, far enough

Whoa! Call me psychic, but I seem to be sensing a little hostility in the above responses. =)

May I take this time to state that while the original post's language and phrasing was - questionable - this is a support forum and that we would like to try to keep the emphasis on support. Ok, so maybe questionable is too generous, but I hope we can get back on track and either ignore the style or just ignore the post and hope for better in the future.

Marco0, may I suggest that street slang and referring to females as "whores," "bitches," and "girlys" is not wise, not factual, and will get you nowhere worth going in life? It will also most likely not get you a decent, long lasting relationship as any female who accepts such terms for herself tends to have either a lack of maturity or deep self esteem issues. I would be *extremely* against encouraging any female to be involved in a relationship with a male who routinely used such words to describe the opposite sex. They show no respect At ALL for women and are only *cool* among boys who are trying too hard to impress other boys.

Sorry if that sounds like judging or dissing you, but we *are* judged by the way we speak and communicate, especially online. All anyone reading your post has to go by is what you say and how you say it. By choosing to use the language and phrasing you did, you are not impressing anyone with how "cool" you are. In fact, the impression you give is entirely UNcool and is one of immaturity, insincerity, and disrespect for women, disrespect for people in general, and disrespect for yourself. If you wish for people to respect you and your feelings, as you state, to "feel my tears here," then you must show respect for them. It is simply how it is.

If you are serious about seeking good advice about an adult situation, and not just trying to stir things up or be "funny" (if so, the joke didn't work), I strongly suggest you work more on learning how to express yourself without resorting to what your "boyz" apparently and incorrectly think of as "cool" language which actually makes you appear as, well, childish. I'm pretty positive that your career counselor would tell you much the same thing if you were interviewing for a job. Sorry if that upsets your view of things, but welcome to the rest of the real world.

May we all find what we need.

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