lol..let me clarify

I think you are misunderstanding the point that we are trying to make. Let me explain it to you as I understand. This is only my understanding that I am sharing with the intent of being of service to others. I matters not if you agree with me. I am simply sharing my own experience. Please do not feel that I am trying to force you in to agreeing. You have to make your own decisions in life. That is the law of free will.

The point is, that we are all God, each and every one of us. That when God created the world, he infused his essence in to every aspect of the creation so that he could experience himself on all sorts of different levels.

As people, we have a choice to be either positive, by being of service to others or negative, by being of service to ourselves. However, with either decision we are still serving God, because it's all God. It must be said though, that the positive path is more efficient simply because it is based on the understanding that we are all one even though that understanding may not be of a conscious nature...if that makes sense.

The negative path is service to self and seeing oneself as separate from the rest of creation, separate from God. One cannot follow that path directly back to God because at some point, to be truly aware they must realize that all is one.

And to answer the original question that you posted, the bad things that happen in our lives are simply catalysts for change.
I know it is kind of complicated, and I am not the best at verbalizing my thoughts. But I hope this makes some sense. Please let me know if I can clarify.