Re: i just don't understand anymore

It doesn't particularly sound like your man is ready to settle down like you say he is, just because he is older than you doesn't mean he's in any more of a hurry to get married. The proof is in his phone book. A man who is ready to settle down won't be carryng around other woment's phone numbers if he's seeing someone for years. That's the sign of a man who'll have his cake and eat it too. You say you are young, so I think your best bet is to experience life. Go out, meet new people, make new friends, concentrate on school and your career. You say you are in a new city, this is the perfect opportunity to take advantage of that. If your love is in fact real, and if it's meant to be, you'll be together down the road. He's had his fun, now it's time you have yours. Plus, the way I see it is, if you're stuck in this relationship which you can't even trust the guy, you're passing up someone special who might come along because you're too busy focusing on your man's whereabouts. Let him go, if he loves you, he'll come back, if he doesn't, oh well, you're better off then. That will give you the chance to meet and be with your true soulmate. This guy might just be a temporary blindspot. Also, is this your first long-term relationship? Because it's sometimes easy to get caught up in these pointless games. If this is your first long-term relationship, you need to get out there and experience other people, only then can you make a rational decision. But the bottomline is: focus on yourself and everything else will fall into place. Tweet