Re: i just don't understand anymore

The first thing I noticed about your guy is that he never actually told you if he was seeing someone else when he was away from you. He turned your question into two questions back at you. Immediately I saw RED FLAGS! Plus the fact he actually carries other womens' phone numbers in his address book? Just friends? I don't think so, since you probably don't know them.

It also sounds like to me that you are so insecure with the relationship anyway. You hit him with too many questions that he can't or won't answer. The foundation of any relationship has got to be trust--not exitement and passion. Not the butterfly feeling in your stomach. No, it's trust and friendship. All the other stuff fades. I promise you that. Too many people make the mistake of trying to recapture those feelings over and over again, but they eventually fade away. If you can't talk to your guy now, what will you do in 20 years if you are still with him?

My suggestion would be to back off completely and see what happens. From my experience, men LOVE a challange. If you suddenly become unattainable, you will find out just how much you mean to him.

Study hard in school because that is the most important thing. Know how to support yourself with or without a man. You make yourself happy first and then you will see happiness all around you.

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