I think you should give your wife a second chance and forget your classmate. All because of your children. If you can learn to love her, then, you don't have to go on creating a mess for yourself, your wife and your kids. However, if this fails, then you should consider telling your wife the truth and see how she's taking it. Some woman will want to keep the man they love, but being a woman myself, I would set my husband free if i were her. Simply because, I believe that love cannot be forced...