Re: Am I wrong or is She.

I just wanted to give my opinion and let you in on my experiences with this which I am actually still going through to this day.

I am only 24 years old, not been married, and have no children, but I dated my last serious boyfriend for 5 1/2 years. I was completely in love, thought I would be married and the whole nine yards. It became a rocky relationship and we eventually just went our separate ways. We did not speak for quite a while, but of course as the story usually goes, we crossed paths again.

I know deep down in my heart that I do love him, as my best friend that he was, and I learned lots of lessons from him, but he is also my EX for a reason. We do still see each other, and we talk way more than most ex's probably do. Being that we had such a passionate relationship, we do still sleep together also.

I am going to lay it on the line. Sleeping with your ex is NOT a good idea! I love to spend time with him, but no that we will never be back together. I hate the thought of him being with someone else, but I will not ever be that person. Me having so much contact with him, only makes that harder for me each day. He lies about wht he does to protect my feelings as will I at times, but how much of that do you actually want to live for the rest of your life?

As hard as it is, the only ties that you have right now is your child. That is a special bond of course. There needs to be some sort of civil relationship for that fact,but that should be as far as it goes. Sleeping with each other only makes things that much more complicated than they are already going to be.

If your family is going to be together as a family, then just wait it out. Let it happen on its own. But don't drive yourself crazy wanting something that may not be. Don't kid yourself into thinking that just because you are sleeping together that everything is going to be ok, because it just adds a whole nother level which could wind up in a worse result than the break up.

I am no doctor by any means, but I am going through somthing similar and just wanted to share how I feel about it. Guess I should probably take my own advice!