Re: This is killing me, what do I do????

I just saw your post and since it’s been quite a few days since you posted your message, I don’t know what has happened since then. I certainly hope you haven’t done anything rash to spoil your marriage.

It sounds like you have enjoyed a wonderful marriage for many years. You love your wife and she loves you. I disagree with the people that have sent in words of help. Of course my ideas might be wrong and theirs might be right. But I’ll add my thoughts anyway.

I think your wife is a brave woman to tell you about her inner feelings. It couldn’t have been easy for her, in fact it must have been like a nightmare, and probably still is. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I truly believe that you and your wife can work it out.

I believe that there are always alternatives, always. And from what you said, I’m not sure if your wife is really a lesbian or rather is bi-sexual. It sounds to me like she is bi-sexual.

There are many ways you can deal with this. And if you give it some thought, you might come up with an answer both you and your wife can live with. And if you do, just think of how happy your wife will be if she can be open and honest with you about her true, inner feelings and continue to be your wife and the mother of your children.

It sounds like your wife is terrified of the consequences of her feelings. But you can help her to realize that feelings are never wrong, it’s the actions we sometimes take that can be wrong and hurt people.

Your wife sounds like a wonderful woman. Give her the support she deserves and help her to get her life back on track. You’ll be glad you did. Tweet