there can't be 3 in a relationship. she has broken her marriage vows with you.
there is nothing that you can do, she needs to choose. it's all up to her now. although heart breaking as it is
to find this out now, it's better to know the truth. she may just be confused about her sexual make up. i have
a daughter that was confused and felt that she was attracted to the same sex. i kept asking her through the year's
about it to find out if she had figured it out. she would alway's tell me she wasn't sure. she had boyfriend's
and went out with guy's but still was unsure. she got married to a man about a tear ago and after she was married
i asked her again if she still had felling of attraction towards women and she said no not anymore. i asked her
how she knew for sure and she said that before she was married she had an intimate relationship with a woman
and said it wasn't like she thought it would be. she didn't like it at all. i told her that if it took that to find out then
i'm glad it happened. has your wife ever had a previous relationship with a women?, maybey she is only confused.
if you want to hold onto your wife suggest counsuling to get out her feeling and to find out if that's what she really
wants. maybey she just is being mentally tortured as well as you. hope this helps you out. god bless.

I'm so sorry to hear this but like the previous writer has said the choice is very much out of your hands.

Counselling would be a good idea. If she leaves you to live her life her way or with this woman then a counsellor will give you the support you need to deal with the pain, hurt, loss and anger.

This is so sad. I very much hope that you can get your marriage back on track-but I think having wrestled with it and finally telling you about it-it sounds like she is making her mind up to go her own way.

Alison

I just saw your post and since it’s been quite a few days since you posted your message, I don’t know what has happened since then. I certainly hope you haven’t done anything rash to spoil your marriage.

It sounds like you have enjoyed a wonderful marriage for many years. You love your wife and she loves you. I disagree with the people that have sent in words of help. Of course my ideas might be wrong and theirs might be right. But I’ll add my thoughts anyway.

I think your wife is a brave woman to tell you about her inner feelings. It couldn’t have been easy for her, in fact it must have been like a nightmare, and probably still is. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I truly believe that you and your wife can work it out.

I believe that there are always alternatives, always. And from what you said, I’m not sure if your wife is really a lesbian or rather is bi-sexual. It sounds to me like she is bi-sexual.

There are many ways you can deal with this. And if you give it some thought, you might come up with an answer both you and your wife can live with. And if you do, just think of how happy your wife will be if she can be open and honest with you about her true, inner feelings and continue to be your wife and the mother of your children.

It sounds like your wife is terrified of the consequences of her feelings. But you can help her to realize that feelings are never wrong, it’s the actions we sometimes take that can be wrong and hurt people.

Your wife sounds like a wonderful woman. Give her the support she deserves and help her to get her life back on track. You’ll be glad you did.