This is killing me, what do I do????

I have been happily married to a wonderful woman for over 11 years. We have two beautiful girls, a condo, and I have a nice career with a large company. We have always had fun together and share much of the same interests. Last night she dropped a bombshell on me. After all these years together you think you know someone, but how can you deal with something like this....

My wife, whom I love and cherish with all of my heart, tells me that she has been keeping a dark secret from me, as well as her entire family. Since long before we met, she has known that she is a lesbian. She has not told anyone in her family for fear of rejection. We met in the Army, and hit it off almost immediately despite going against her natural tendencies. She admits to falling in love with me, although she can't explain why. We have been happily married for over 11 years, but four months ago she met a young woman online. She told me she they have fallen in love with each other and it is tearing her apart. Now that she has told me about it, I don't know how to react. She doesn't want to lose me or the children, but she know's she is living a lie. My wife has been dealing with it by turning alcohol, and it really hurts me that I don't know what to do. Can anyone offer advice on how to deal with this sort of situation? Please, God Help Us.... Tweet