She may be doing the right thing by leaving an abusive and now unbelieving man, but what she is going to go through in legal and society may not let her seek forgiveness for herself. She, we all need to, forgive ourselves. Forgiving ourselfes allows forgiveness for others. Persons that hold on to grudges (the first sound in this word is grrrrrrrrrr) have a hard time being healed mentally, physically or spiritually.