Re: How do I get my sex life back

Megan66,

I understand you want to have sex life, I am just trying to help you to switch roles. For no outbreaks, why are you so sure he has no outbreak? Outbreaks are always invisible, and even the person who has them lied about not having one at the kind inquiry of a loved one due to embarassment. My boyfriend would ask me daily, " How do you feel today? Any outbreak today? " Of course I said no due to the embarassing fact of outbreak every two or three days. Yesterday when I was eating alone in restaurant, a guy asked me for phone number. Even with Herpes in the mouth, I covered with Lancome lipstick and lipgloss, anywhere I go, people will say I look great and fine as if I have no disease. Even when I try to apply for Social Security Benefit, the officer knew I have Herpes in mouth and genital, and still ask me out. The point is outbreak can be barely visible to the eye.

If sex is so important in your life, go for it. Now, I can see the love of yourself is greater than the love of your man that you said love so much. Love is a crab to say love is sacrifice, love is giving and not love is not taking. Christopher Reeve's wife died of lung cancer. Even though she does not have sex from Christopher Reeve, she does not leave him, maybe it is for the money she stayed which I should'nt go any further into details. The point is one day a partner or spouse's health got into problem, is the other partner willing to stand next to the person? Some people might have stroke and on wheelchair, some people might have Multiple schlerosis, so their other half's sex life will be affected.

Also, one older lady who is an accupunturist had warned me, what you want might be an idol that you never have it. I want to get married off before 30, and at 24 year old I got Herpes 2 in the genital. Then, I said I must be married off at 40. Then, at 36, I got Herpes 2 in the mouth. Since two times you can't find the person to satisfy you in sex, is sex your idol? I am not saying sex is wrong, if your fate is you will have a sexless life, do you want to keep trying till the door closed on you Maybe your next one will infected you with Herpes or HPV, then you will have a sexless life again. What makes you so sure your next one will meet your sexual need? Reality is different from what you think you will get.