Re: Anyone out there???

Sorry my friend, but the reply is likely good advice - you don't need to hide it from the ones who love you.

They will be affected either way, but it can be much worse - for them - if they feel you hid your weaknesses from them, passing yourself off as s strong person when you are not like that - remember that you are just as valued to loved ones whether or not you are strong, its LOVE they need from you. You will continue to loe them if they know, right? They will love you back...

Sorry if this confuses things, but you brought it up and thats a clue that it is time to deal with it.

in my family, we didn't ever talk about Mom's or Dad's weaknesses, like it was blasphemy or something. Now, one kid is confused as to why they had such conflicts with the perfect parents but no other siblings had conflicts. Well it wasn't true, it was just not talked about. This left him very confused, and the only conclusion he could have is THAT HE MUST BE REALLY MESSED UP TO HAVE ISSUES WITH THIS PERFECT MOTHER OF OURS.

The messed up one is Mom, but denail of that results in some of the kids being messed up now too.

So DEAL with it - you are not superman or supermom, nobody is, although kids tend to think of parents in those iconic terms but it is never true - unless you are the son of Napolean or something. And he was really short.

nobody is perfect, and if someome expects it of you, including your self-expectations, it will no doubt dissapoint. Better to just be real, kids will benefit.

Karlkin -
I don't have a clue as to what I am talking about, but its ok.
Now, you try. See? its ok.


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