Re: Very Long and Complicated

Hello Confused,

This is a problem. I want to be honest with you though. If you feel that you are making a mistake then trust me....you are. The saying goes "the grass isn't alway's greener on the other side" is very true. When you get married your relationship changes. It changes on many levels. For one, it's about keeping the passion alive. A must for any marriage to work. If you know that you can connect to your husband then make it work. The feeling that you are getting from the person that you have been seeing and having sex with is more of a exciting feeling for you. The reason is simple,like you said you feel connected to him. Anyone, who meet's someone that you feel connected to is great. They understand you, they know how you feel,and you get the feeling like you got when you first met your husband. The only problem with this is, you took it way to far. Cheating on your husband is not good. No matter what! I know it's the excitment of having someone understand you,because in life that's all what we look for. How would you feel if your husband cheated on you? I think that was a wrong thing to do. I think you know that though. That's the past. What I would do is stay with your husband. Don't give up and try to create the love and passion you once had. It may take some time,don't expect his over night. The key to it is doing everything in your power to make your love alive. If it fall's apart then pick up the pieces and continue to work at it. Nothing is easy in life. It takes work. Not everyone see's eye to eye on everything. When you got married you took vowels to each other. Saying that no matter what,sickness,money,or whatever, that nothing would break your relationship apart. Stay with your husband and make it work. Talk to your husband,and tell him how you feel. Don't be mean but be honest. Tell him what you need. It may be that he is feeling the same way. I have felt that way in my relationship. We all have feelings like this. It's normal but, work at it. Good luck and let us know how everything works out.