Hello Confused,

This is a problem. I want to be honest with you though. If you feel that you are making a mistake then trust me....you are. The saying goes "the grass isn't alway's greener on the other side" is very true. When you get married your relationship changes. It changes on many levels. For one, it's about keeping the passion alive. A must for any marriage to work. If you know that you can connect to your husband then make it work. The feeling that you are getting from the person that you have been seeing and having sex with is more of a exciting feeling for you. The reason is simple,like you said you feel connected to him. Anyone, who meet's someone that you feel connected to is great. They understand you, they know how you feel,and you get the feeling like you got when you first met your husband. The only problem with this is, you took it way to far. Cheating on your husband is not good. No matter what! I know it's the excitment of having someone understand you,because in life that's all what we look for. How would you feel if your husband cheated on you? I think that was a wrong thing to do. I think you know that though. That's the past. What I would do is stay with your husband. Don't give up and try to create the love and passion you once had. It may take some time,don't expect his over night. The key to it is doing everything in your power to make your love alive. If it fall's apart then pick up the pieces and continue to work at it. Nothing is easy in life. It takes work. Not everyone see's eye to eye on everything. When you got married you took vowels to each other. Saying that no matter what,sickness,money,or whatever, that nothing would break your relationship apart. Stay with your husband and make it work. Talk to your husband,and tell him how you feel. Don't be mean but be honest. Tell him what you need. It may be that he is feeling the same way. I have felt that way in my relationship. We all have feelings like this. It's normal but, work at it. Good luck and let us know how everything works out.

don't even know where to begin to tell you that you are so wrong. You are cheating on your husband with someone who is cheating on his wife. if you leave your husband and take a chance with the other guy, it will come back to you, he will cheat on you like the way he's cheating on his wife again.
you connected, loved, and cared for your husband, that's why you married him in the first place.
you will only realize how good of a man your husband is only when you can't get it anymore. by that time it will be too late.
i agree with lonelyguy, it's just an excitement because it's fresh and new. it's not love or friendship or honesty. what you have with your husband is everything.
if you tell your husband that you've been cheating on him, it will crash his world. he probably never thought you would be the one to betray him and lie to him. he will never trust you again. it's so sad what you did to your husband knowing that it's so wrong.
you said that you're afraid that you'll be making a mistake. well guess what? too late you already are making a big mistake.
i hope you will come to your senses and what's real in this world and stop living in your fantasy imaginary world.

Hi,

I was in your exact shoes about 10 years ago. Same situation: I
married young (23), didn't know myself at all, etc. I met someone
online, we got together, hit it off, and got very close intimately.
She was not married at the time, so she was available whenever I
was. It was, and has always been, the best sex I've ever had.

Unfortunately, that relationship has continued to haunt me to this
very day. I've now been married for 15 years and have two children,
but fantasize ALL the time about starting over. As the other
posters correctly point out, people change and marriages change.
My relationshiop with the affair woman was truly incredible. So
incredible, in fact, that it makes me wonder why I can't have that
kind of relationship in my life everyday.

You're predicament is going to be a tough one to work through. In
general, I agree with the other posters that are basically spanking
you for cheating on your husband. I agree that that is very wrong.
However, I think that if you don't have any children, then get some
counseling, and really decide what is truly important to you.

If you want to leave your husband for this other guy, you will be
emotionally destroyed when you realize that he won't leave his wife
for you. If you leave your husband, leave because of YOU.

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