Re: Neglected and Hurt

I am a male and am married. I have been for 2 years now. At the beginning of the marriage we where have sex 4 times a day (this in part motivated me to marry seeing as I have never met a woman who want that much sex). No days we have sex maybe once ever two weeks and when we do it is boring, no real foreplay no excitement. Basically she says she is horny and if I want some now is the time. This has made our sex life unenjoyable. The frequency is steadily dropping and the quality has gone. So it is not just men who do this. I think it is a certain type of person. Maybe the get comfortable and selfish and stop seeing the partner as lover and simply a spouse and this takes away from it... I don't know but would like some ideas to see what you think.

My real problem with this relationship is this... she comes for a very health functional family. I do not in fact I rarely talk to my Dad and see my mother as a friend rather then a parent. I have been have trouble bringing up how I see her doing selfish things, like not really seeing the things I would like and just pursuing what she wants. School, home renovations, yoga and basically things she does on her own. Now it is good in a relationship to have distinct lives this makes the other person more attractive. But it should not come at the cost of the marriage. I just want at least once a week where we actually spend time together and do something romantic. Her response for the last 4 months has been "Why did I marry such a high maintaince husband". In the beginning she loved the romance. I have suggested we see a counselor and she has said she will take care of it and never does. I recently confronted her on it and she said that she does see why she should have to go to ac councilor since I am the one that is emotionally handicapped because of my family.
So i am ready to give up but still not sure and need input before I make up my mind.
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