you are right, in the end we all want the same thing. honestly, it sounds like a lot, but after awhile I started to really like many of those items,and they make me feel good to the extent that I would not give them up even when I acheive "perfect" health, whatever that means.
I guess if there I could only say a few short words to candida sufferers, it would be that the health issues you are facing are much broader than just candida, approach it from an overall health standpoint, and the candida can be brought under control in time without drugs and without a life of supps or avoiding even healthy foods.
I know we all can make it, if we are open minded and work together.