Indeed, --the whole 'flies with honey, not vinegar'. But I'm not very good at that. *lol* I tells it as I sees it.
So I think I plant seeds, I don't expect to be there when the plants starts growing. The unconscious mind hears the truth, and knows it for the truth. It's not going to let the hearer forget. It may take a while, though.
But sometimes all the honey in the world won't reach them until that truth is heard and registered by the unconscious mind.. But a little of both is actuality a good approach, I think--you know, good cop/bad cop style. :)