Re: Wow what a biotch

Hum... from a double masters in systems counseling perspective here, I have to say--what trained you to accept treatment like this? It sounds like your desire for sex and connection kept you addicted to her . Like it was said, this is a learning opportunity. But it's a learning opportunity for YOU.

There will be CAM people in the world. They're everywhere. It's your issue that makes you way too vulnerable to that type of person. You need to figure out why you need that kind of person in your life. Getting the police to do 'protecting' only delays your learning, and it certainly doesn't protect you from yourself, who really is the issue here.

You LET her behave this way around you. So I'm guessing that somewhere in your past, someone you needed for survival behaved in very similar ways, training you to accept this kind of behavior as ok, so you'd get what you needed to survive.

Unfortunately, that level of training gets buried in the unconscious as you grow older and probably gets forgotten, but it's still there. So when you meet someone who displays that behavior, it often triggers a sense of having no choice. The initial need to accept that behavior was because you felt your life was at stake, and people do whatever they need to to survive, usually.

But unfortunately, that kind of unconscious belief never grows up or goes away without some kind of conscious (from self or others) intervention, because your unconscious mind gets frozen in that trauma and continues to believes you need to let her be that way in order for you to survive. If it's a survival based belief, it's pretty unresponsive to self control methods.

It can make you look pretty crazy, even. And absolutely guaranteed, if you do manage to extricate yourself from this relationship, you'll end up in another just like it, even as one abused woman will go from abusive man to abusive man.

I'd say find a counselor, because at this point, you're pretty wounded to be able to 'sew up' yourself. A good counselor isn't too easy to find though. It often takes a couple tries. I do have a post in my thread 'spiritual healing' on the spirituality/prophesy forums, where I talk about what *I* think makes for a good counselor, if you want my opinion. :)

And no... It's not a sales pitch. Just my observations about what I've seen in the psychology field, and it's often unhelpful approach.