The important thing is, that you recognize what you did and do not repeat it. I was raped 4 yes ago by my ex gf. We were drinking. I passed out. When I woke up, my hands and feet were tied to the bed. I asked her to untie me. But she didn't. She stimulated me and proceeded to rape me. I asked her to stop. I said no. It didn't matter. Then because I asked her to stop she got mad and sodomized me. I have not dated since and am not sure that I will.