Re: Was it rape? A boy the victim and the girl the rapist?

I've got some concerns about your post. I realize that it is now 3 years old, but I have to say that I was a bit taken aback by what you described.

I am male and have been sexually abused/assaulted by 2 girls I knew in high school. They put some sort of dope into a coke I was drinking and when I finally managed to shake off the dope haze, both were raping me. One by oral sex, the other by sticking a dild0 up my rectum.

I was totally and completely ashamed and did not tell anyone for a few years. When I did manage to get the courage up to confront the 2 girls , they laughed and said I was lucky to have 2 girls having sex with me. I should have gone to the police, but being a male, they would have either laughed or congratulated me on how lucky I was. I spun into a deep Depression for a while. I was raped and no one would believe me or help me.

Guys aren't believed when they tell others about being raped by women/girls.

My chief concern is that you are writing a post asking if what you did to your boyfriend constituted rape. You knew he would not risk injuring you and you took advantage of that fact.

You need to face the facts. You committed a sexua| assault and no amount of justification about what happened to you when you were younger matters. Being sexually abused does not give you license to sexually abuse others.

Was a crime committed? I would say yes. Will you ever be held accountable? I think not. You have to live with what you did. So does you boyfriend. Even if you are no longer seeing each other, he will have to live with what you did.

I think you need to have a frank and honest conversation with your BF and apologize. You need to find out how you actions have affected him. Perhaps then you can figure a way to alter your behavior and victim mentality.

If this post seems harsh, too bad. I went through a sexua| assault by 2 girls and it did a number on my self confidence and ability to trust girls.

If the female reader think I just need to get over my sexua| assault, I will ask a question. If you were raped did you just "get over it" with out help?