Now we are getting somewhere. Minor points? This is where we learn to grow in Christ. It's a process...we are not there yet. If people want a successful walk with the Spirit in this hard ole world, while we are still in the flesh....they should learn to ask for forgiveness. Not just whispering it to our neighbor or pastor so it can be passed around in prayer groups. It's for our own good that we go to God to repent and ask for forgiveness....it's what makes us the people that God wants us to be. This is where we learn to change. And No, I don't believe God forces us to change...He may allow life to be hard on us until we wish to change, but He doesn't force us.
Go to God with all your problems, faults and sins and see what a huge difference everyone sees in their lives.