The problem is that many of us have caring hearts that go out to sick people. We want to help so much. Watching them sick and dying when we know they have another choice, hurts us very much. We have to accept the fact that everyone has the right to make their own choice about what happens to them. They have the right to die.
If this person isn't holding food down, I think June may be too late. It's the responsibility of the person who is sick to seek help and co-operate--do the procedures that will get them well.
My heart goes out to you, Radish150. I've felt your hurt many time. Hugz!!!