Re: Not a good question about sex

Thank you. This is an interesting post. It resonates somewhat because I think there is some mental "freeing" that needs to happen, but I think it's on his side, unfortunately, and he doesn't seem comfortable when we talk about this stuff and therefore doesn't seem to really engage or take action. I wonder if I work so hard at fixing problems that he thinks I can fix this on my own while he plays ostritch. I've worked on my own mind to "free myself" from the stress and achieved that for periods of time where I tried to renew our relations in a playful and light hearted manner and on the occasions I'm successful, that success seems to only last for the night. :-(

Now I'm obviously stressed mentally again, but whether or not I am, he seems stuck. You may well be on to something but how to "unstick" him, I cannot say. A change of venue or something that gets us out of the routine of life and appeals to him has in the past resulted in passion much like we once knew. I'm so frustrated that these encounters can't be generalized to our every day life, even on an infrequent basis. For example, a few months a go he decided to come on to me in a dressing room when he got me a different size sweater. I was actually somewhat anxious about the location as the store was busy, but considering our circumstances, I let him talk me into it. Now dressing rooms hold a strong appeal - he was talking about it later - but we haven't had hot sex anywhere since.

How to help him get unstuck? I don't know. Maybe I'll get some ideas on the forum posted but the person before you. Thank you! Tweet