Angel,
Remi didn't mention anyone by name. She was just dishing out some general tough love. She wants better for people such as yourself. Doesn't the fact that you referred to this place as a "social atmosphere" kind of make her case? A "social atmosphere" is a wedding, a concert, a dinner party, etc. (I know, I'm not knitpicking - you were talking about rules of courtesy.) But as PT4 said, this place is the craigslist of Health Forums - are these friendships the stuff of a rich and rewarding life? I wish you the best of luck and motivation.