Re: Just get over it?

Gloria Steinem mentioned something about menopause being a great thing so we can "think about other things" beyond sex. I agree only to a point, and will speak from my experience rather than opinion.

I was widowed in 2001, which changed everything at that time, but little did I know menopause would soon enough follow and change things even more. In the process of giving myself the gift of proper time for grieving and healing the MENO turned my libido down to a low roar, down from the raging bonfire it had been. The result of not trying to force the issue, as in having sex for the habitual sake of it, has been a very spiritual experience. The re-direction of the energy has produced a level of creative, intellectual, spiritual, personal growth. I marvel at how much we are subject to our instinct for sex -to procreate was a huge power whether babies were the result or not - at least in my younger days.

I am not married at present, nor in any kind of relationship for several years, but if I were in your shoes I would find the peace in purposeful abstinence, and then find the kindling for the passion you say has waned. Fire that stuff up !

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