I would like to add to this. Sometimes, what you see is NOT what you get. My somewhat homely acupuncturist husband turned out to be worse then my georgeous, cocaine sniffing ballet dancer boyfriend....(he was an obvious bad boy...but gee whiz...he had the face and body of a young mythical God...)
Take your time ladies, and give the true man a chance to come out. They all put their best foot forward in the beginning, so give him at least a year to prove himself before you tie any knots. A professional background search is not a bad idea, or at least sniff out a few unbiased references..... then use your head