That stinks about the surgery. Hopefully they will nail it this time - if you go that route.
That is interesting what you say about the XMRV virus. I heard about it, but never looked into it as I kind of feel the same way you do about Lyme, EBV, etc... never know what to believe...
What kind of Infared were you using?
I have used a magnetic pulser and found although it makes my teeth stronger, it was making my gums thicker in places where they were normal. I was not sure what to make of that, so I stopped using it out of fear it was spreading stuff around.