it's not that complicated.

YOU ARE MAKING IT COMPLICATED BECAUSE OF THE GAMES YOU CONTINUE TO PLAY. I NOTICED HOW MANY TIMES YOU REFERENCED FINANCIAL STABILITY...i.e. "GIVE ME EVERYTHING HE HAS" NOTED MORE THAN ONCE AND THE WHOLE MONEY ANGLE. IF I TRULY LOVED SOMEONE, MONEY (OR LACK OF IT) WOULD BE THE LEAST OF MY WORRIES. I ALSO NOTICED YOUR INSISTENCE ON PUTTING DOWN THE OTHER WOMAN HE NOW SEES REGULARLY AS A LOVE INTEREST. YOU DID GO OUT OF YOUR WAY TO PORTRAY HER AS A SHREW AND JUST NOT HIS TYPE. THERE'S GOTTA BE SOMETHING GREAT ABOUT HER, RIGHT? WHY WOULD HE CHOOSE HER? HEY, YOU HAD YOUR CHANCE AND DIDN'T TAKE IT. THAT'S REALITY. IT'S PRETTY CLEAR TO THIS PROFESSIONAL ADVICE GIVER THAT THE MAN YOU MARRIED WASN'T "THE ONE". YOU SETTLED. HE DIDN'T MAKE YOU HAPPY FOR MANY YEARS, IF TRUTH BE KNOWN, AND THUS YOU SOUGHT AFFECTIONS FROM A SOULMATE. WHEN YOU HAD THE CHANCE TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT...YOU DIDN'T.

AND THIS IS GOING TO BE BRUTAL...BUT I GOTTA BE ME AND STATE COLD, HARD TRUTH THE WAY IT REALLY IS: I AM BETTING THAT YOU COULDN'T WAIT FOR THE CANCER TO "ALLOW" YOURSELF AN OPPORTUNITY AT TRUE LOVE. SUGAR-COAT IT ANYWAY YOU WANT, CALL ME A BASTARD FOR STATING IT OUT LOUD, YOU WOULD'VE LOVED WALKING INTO LOVERBOY'S ARMS "UNATTACHED". HEY, YOU WERE SLEEPING WITH THE OTHER GUY AND LOVING HIM ALL THE WHILE YOU WERE MARRIED TO A GUY WITH CANCER. NOW YOU WANT SYMPATHY? YOUR HUSBAND WOULD NOT SLEEP WITH YOU FOR WHATEVER REASON, AND THAT PROMPTED YOU TO LOOK...TO STRAY. AND STRAY YOU DID. WE ALL HAVE SKELETONS IN OUR CLOSETS, EVERY ONE OF US. SO DON'T THINK THAT EVERYBODY READING THIS IS SO MUCH BETTER THAN YOU OR THAT YOU'RE THE WORST PERSON ON EARTH TO DO SUCH A THING. I HAVE DONE THINGS I'M NOT TOO PROUD OF, AS WELL. WE ALL HAVE. BUT ACKNOWLEDGE THE FACT. YOU BREAK IT DOWN, IT'S SIMPLE.


HERE'S WHAT HAPPENED: HUSBAND AND YOU HAD PROBLEMS IN THE MARRIAGE, YOU SEPARATE YOUR EMOTIONS FROM EACH OTHER, YOU ARE TEMPTED AND THEN ACT ON THAT, YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER, YOU FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH HUSBAND, LOVER TIRES OF YOUR GAMES WITHIN THE "MARRIAGE", LOVER FINDS ANOTHER WHO SATISFIES HIS NEEDS, YOU GET JEALOUS AND ENVIOUS, HUSBAND DIES, NOW YOU HAVE NOBODY, LOVER HAS SOMEBODY. THAT'S IT. THOSE ARE THE CARDS DEALT.

MAYBE YOU OUGHT TO COOL YOUR JETS, PUT THE BALL IN LOVERBOY'S COURT, AND LET HIM WORK THROUGH HIS FEELINGS FOR THE LADY (JUST LIKE HE LET YOU WITH YOUR HUBBY), AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON. IF HE WANTS YOU, HE'LL COME BACK INTO YOUR LIFE. IF HE DOESN'T, HE WON'T. LET IT BE. LET IT BE... Tweet