Re: Cognitive Dissonance

There is a plaque at the entrance of my home stating -

~People may not believe what you say, but they will always believe what you do~

And this I live by, as congruity became as vital as integrity in my life. For example, years ago my husband hit me and I threatened to leave, but did not, and then he hit me again and I left, but I came back. And 'round and 'round we went, with me all the while wanting to believe he would, should change. Long after the final separation I saw myself clearly as having been out of alignment - threatening but not following through - knowing I did not deserve this abuse, but staying around, or showing up again for it - focused on what needed to be different in him, not me. I learned from this to ACT in accordance to my beliefs, and never say a thing I do not mean, and to mean everything I say. My behavior reflects a level of integrity today that was passe and uninteresting to me in my youth.

Also today I am jobless, have little money and have to move soon, yet I am happy as a little clam! In keeping with an intuitive prompting a few months ago, a knowledge of great change coming, I have leaned in to it, rather than resisting. I have lived in this house for over six years, love it, and as much as I would like to stay forever, comfortable and familiar here - it is time to go - to the unknown - ALL doors closing in all areas of life and what will open remains to be seen. The forward momentum of life defies me to stand still, so I let it carry me like a wave out to sea .....

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