Re: when I was 17

Hi Jan

Random assaults like the one you have described affect your life forever. I know this as something similiar, albiet not as serious as what happened to you, happened to me a long time ago.

I am so sorry this happened to you. Anger and rage are very typical because how dare he do this to you. How dare he ruin your day/life like that.

Counselling in whatever way is comfortable for you can be very helpful; this means finding a good supportive and mature friend to talk to and/or going to see someone professional. I saw someone professional, and have since spoken with friends and gone back for more counselling when/if it felt appropriate. I went to a clinic especially dealing with sexual assault and I think its a good idea to find a worker who is skilled in this area as they have the experience to know what you are going through.

Unexpected flashbacks have been a problem from time to time; and these are times I usually feel I need to talk. This may be the same for you. I have found talking with other victims very helpful as they REALLY understand what you are talking about and what you feel inside. By the way, I am still angry from time to time and its been 10 plus years since, and its normal to feel that way.

Taking care of your safety is of paramount importance now.

I hope you find some good supports in your local area.

All best, Peggy

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