I just stopped by to read some posts here after being away for several months and got so caught up in the informative posts by Hveragerthi that I've been here all afternoon reading them! No clue who it is, male or female, age or location, but the posts are VERY informative to say the least!
I look forward to his/her response to your questions. I wish I could offer you some help as well, but I'm pretty much suffering with many of the same issues and still trying to resolve them, except I'm 20 years older than you!
Let's hope we both find solutions and resolutions!