Kdogg-you might want to post this as a new message. You are posting under chronologicocal order, and may not get any responses this way. (you responded to a very old post)
I know there are several women with the same symptoms-some current posters, who may be able to help you, but anyone with the "standard view" will never see your question. I cant help you b/c these arent my issues. there are women who can. Hang in there!