Re: Any suggestion/advise

Wow. I log in after not posting for what, 20 months because I have a court date coming up that I wish to share, and I'm scrolling down to see if there are any new posts and I see '7 Seconds Ago' in red next to this...

My current (and wonderful to me, I might happily add) is also a retired police officer and has been very supportive of me and nothing but helpful through this, and by 'this' I mean the current issue I'm having with my Qualifier (if that's what this group calls it - don't quite remember). See, approximately a year after he received his one-year probationary period (which actually was about a year ago and took over a year to get), he started calling me and leaving me voice mails, being all cutesy and "Hey Baby"... Baby???? Are you f-ing serious? I had you *convicted* and even allowed you to plead to a lesser charge because I didn't want to have to see your pathetic crocodile-teared face in court, you m*o*o*n, and you call me "Baby" and ask me to call you and then say you hope everything is well... it WAS well until you called. So I went to my local precinct and filed a complaint. I finally met with the Assistant DA and her superior on my case the other day, and they want as much evidence as possible from the first case - which was held in a different county due to the location of the assault - to build a case against his character. I only wish I still had the stuff I just recently ditched because I wanted the negative energy out of my house. I had kept all the items he tore from my rear-view, the broken pencil, the bra he ripped off me, the CD holder/visor in my car he tore apart with his bare hands in case I needed them for the original trial date.... but since they are not where I had originally stored them, I can only surmise that I threw it all out after I cleaned up the basement after the flood we had in May. But, I digress....

So I explained to the Assistant DA that all I wanted was for him to leave me alone and that I wasn't trying to teach anyone a lesson or get back at them; I just wanted my order of protection extended.... but the more I think of it - as my boyfriend said - I gave him license to come back into my life because I did not throw the book at him, and I let him off easy... maybe I *should* go for the misdemeanor and three-years probation. If he's reformed enough to stay out of trouble for three years, then the conviction should not be a problem. It's not as if he doesn't have a rap sheet, as I learned the hard way. History of assault. Nice.

But he's toast. I think I should face him in court, answer all the defamatory questions his court-appointed attorney asks me - even though I will be embarrassed in front of my mother so I'll have to warn her about the drug questions, lol, but the ADA assures me it's a good thing that I'm being honest that I'd done cocaine on a few occasions if it was offered to me and that after he offered it to me once, 'no, thanks' was not an option. Then he'd pump me up with xanax so he could drive without my paying attention to how reckless he was behind the wheel because I'd be so exhausted from his keeping me from going home at a decent hour because he wanted me to oversleep and lose my job so he could further own me. When I'd mentioned to him once that I almost lost my job over an incident that he had created there, he said 'Cool'. The ADA was thrilled to death to hear me say that for some reason and thanked me profusely for being so honest... wonder what that's all about....

Happy New Year!!! My life could not be better otherwise. My boyfriend is awesome and is even a volunteer for the city employee assistance program - he's on call once a month to talk to anyone who calls the help line; suicidal firemen, battered partners of sanitation employees, detectives with drug issues.. you name it. I'm very lucky to have met him in high school. Too bad it took 25 years for us to meet and another five to start dating just two months ago...

TIME TO EAT. Then I have to get ready for dance class. Still doing that. Qualifier had prevented me from attending a couple of important pre-recital rehearsals *and* picture day in 2005, the rotten pr!ck that he is. Later, my friends... too hungry to function any longer, lol. Need dancing energy!













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