Re: help!!!

Hey, Neomi - I read the whole thread about your concerns and I was compelled to offer some observations. Maybe, they'll help you and maybe, they won't.

From your descriiption of your situation, you sound very young - you're just beginning to learn about healthy relationships and this one is not healthy, whatsoever. As someone pointed out, you started this relationship using head-games, subversion, and deception. NO relationship will ever be successful when it's been a series of damaging events, from the beginning.

You are young enough to learn from this situation and never repeat the same mistakes when approaching the next relationship. If I were in your situation, I would recognize that I'm attempting to bail out a sinking ship with a teaspoon and walk away. I would stop wasting my energy on someone else and start paying attention to my own needs. Once I've become a self-assured and self-reliant woman, I can then choose a partner who will enhance my good qualities and I will not choose someone because I think that I need to have someone (anyone) to make me feel complete.

Best wishes to you.