Re: "pleasure tolerance"

"In these days I'm considering a change of paradigm, where I feel like letting go of my traditional approach that has always been very much for the healing of the resistances, and trust more the wonders of love."

I see what you're saying and where you're coming from. It is true for me too, I think most of us think that we have to 'change' the resistance. We keep trying to change it or get rid of it. Yes, in the past I've tried to get rid of it. That is just adding more fuel to the fire!!!

Once I told a dream to a wonderful friend that I was jealous in the dream. And I kept thinking on the jealousy: why am I jealous? What should I do? What does it mean?She replied: "Maybe you shouldn't (and can't) do anything with the jealousy. Maybe it just IS. Maybe it just wants you to accept it as it IS." I thought that was so brilliant. She is very clear in her consciousness, in my opinion.

I have comed to learn it is not the emotion that is 'wrong' or 'bad'...I think that is often what we think. We judge the emotion. And then bring attention to it.

So when we detach from the negativity, by letting it 'be' without judging it, without trying to change it, or even wanting it to change it all, we have DETACHED...and it loosens its grip and we get more freedom.

For those issues that we have repeatedly judged and have much resistance to, I do agree with bringing loving attention with processes like visualization, Byron Katie's "The Work", Debbie Ford's method of shadows, etc. These are really all loving ways to detach, and even appreciate, the 'negativity'.

So your sense is spot on, as they say. It's wonderful to see you saying "YES" to all the wonderful things of life....that acceptance, in fact, I'm sure, is loosening all your resistances anyway!! You are an inspiration!

Because, I think, when we can easily detach in general, all the resistances fall away, little by little. And since we are already wanting to align to ourselves, we are gently guided all the while. As you evidence for us too!

By the way, Abraham is totally on board with this 'newer' approach you're heading of . Totally.

Love
Lori

P.S. Sorry if I'm being a bit philosophical...I think this is a passion of mine!
Chuckle: I just saw you saying these same words..."Alluding to the idea that the real root of the problems is not the content of the resistance, but the resistance itself to pleasure."

Yes!
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