I'm not a therapist, but will take it as a compliment!

"Are you suggesting that she was felt even less than this 'projection' and 'infatuation' with her ex-husband, too?!" Uh, are they STILL together? How long did it last? The fact that he is an "ex" speaks for itself.

"BUT at the same time I scared of getting hurt! I dont want to say it and end up scaring him away either!" Jellybean voices her own hesitancy; that's why I say she might wait until she's sure of the reaction. If she doesn't mind that look of love turning into a horrified expression of fear, rejection and "let-me-outta-here!" in response to her premature declaration of love, go to it!