Telling someone that you are falling... 
jellybean81
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How do you tell someone that you think you may be falling in love?
I want to tell him but Im scared he may not feel the same way I do!!! My heart flutters just imagining telling him those words!!
Like when do I tell him?Should I even tell him?Do I wait for that perfect moment? Or is it more of 'actions speak louder than words'?
It drives me NUTS looking into his eyes and being in his arms and not being able to say those words!!
I never felt this way about anyone (even with my ex husband!!!)
It totally has been freaking me out too.
We dont hang out as much as I would like too (we both live with our parents 30 minutes away). I dont have a car so most times we hang out it is whenever he can drive over to my place and pick me up.
He has made jokes on how if he moved out he wouldnt mind me 'hanging out at my place if I ever wanted to get away from my family'..which I was floored to hear him say because that means he wants me to be more involved in his life!!!
I am just tickled to have this wonderful person in my life and I know we are both taking things really slow, but I know what I feel and I HATE having to deny my emotions.
BUT at the same time I scared of getting hurt! I dont want to say it and end up scaring him away either!- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... neomi
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I know your dying to tell him how you feel but, yes there always a but.LOl I rather wait only to secure your feelings of getting hurt. I read in a relationship book that women get hurt because they put themselves in that position. What im tryna say is try giving him signs first than just verbally tellin him. That way IF he responds then you could think about tellin him or not
- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... gilda
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MoreThis is a reply to # 1,119,952I agree with Neomi about taking it slow.
If you want to read a real horror story (but typical), check out the post "weird feelings" further down on the page where a guy is totally "in love", until beloved RETURNS his feelings....then el dumpo! Truly pathetic, but good education for women.- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... roooth
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This is a reply to # 1,120,563Actually that post was just an attraction with nothing substantial behind it; they had not spent time together other than flirting at work. It sounds like this is a relationship... I assumed a bit but it sounds like you two are dating already? You'd said something about being in his arms? You may also want to wait to play it safe, but I like my take on why to wait (see my other post to you). :-)
- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... gilda
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MoreThis is a reply to # 1,120,799"Actually that post was just an attraction with nothing substantial behind it; they had not spent time together other than flirting at work."
Exactly the point; people constantly are disappointed in "love" because they don't see the desired one for what they really are, but what they WANT the beloved to be -it's called "projection". Beginning dating is pretty much the same while the parties reconcile their expectations with the reality!
Spending a few minutes or hours in someone's arms in the car does not a relationship make, so I think it wise to play it cool until the doubts diminish. So far it seems pretty much in the infatuation stage, as the most intimacy he's shared is she "can hang out" if he ever gets his own place.
But definitely enjoy whether it lasts or not.- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... neomi
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I guess it all depends on the person. the guy im talking 2 now, I KNEW he liked me but of course he never spoke out first til i did reverse pyschology and told him that someone told me that he liked me. then he finally admitted.
but honestly, before I even made that move, he showed me signs of interest. for example, i asked him when is my prince charming coming along and he replied back "who knows, your prince charming cud be right in front of you"
*hmmmm*
thats when i knew....
*smile*- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... gilda
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This is a reply to # 1,121,072You are clever! I like your style.
My only caution would be that guys often say cute things like that...and they ARE as interested as they sound at the time.
But they can just as quickly bolt if they feel if they are liked MORE than they like you. Suddenly that makes them feel smothered and they have no conscience about the previous declarations of undying love as they make a cowardly get-a-away, such as "weird feelings" did.
I'm sure YOUR guys aren't like that, but just in case...
We women generally aren't familiar with power games, but guys are raised with them -acutely aware of who's on top at any given time in their social and business stratosphere. I guess it's not too surprising they apply the same standards to their relationship.- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... neomi
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i know what you mean about smothering thats why I try not to do that and keep my ground. we talk everyday though. Actually last Sat was the First time we talked more than once or twice like we usually do and I didnt get to see him either last weekened b/c he had something important to take care of.
*sad face*
but I got over the fact that we arent boyfriend/girlfriend u knw so things like this cud happen?
Question: Is it ok to talk on the phone everyday and how long on the phone.?? I reead a book that stated miss some of his calls and dont call him back, let him call YOU. and only talk on the phone with him for only 10minBTW I think i would like your email cuz i do need some guidance with this new guy and i rather send a message personally so i dont smother the RelationShip Forum. LOL
Thanks
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- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... gilda
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This is a reply to # 1,121,247How do I give my email address without publishing it to the entire internet?
Some often advise against being too available, as it is human nature to want what we can't have and to devalue what is easy. But when does it become a game and take away from a real relationship?
I think that's why being a busy person who has her own life makes for a desirable partner- it makes her extremely interesting, but she can't be accused of game-playing when she's often unavailable.
Let me know about the email.- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... herb-gal
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This is a reply to # 1,121,371members can email you by an option given at the top of your posts.
it keeps your email address anonymous as well so that members can contact you from here without giving away your online identity.
If people have your email address, they can look you up on myspace or other social forums and find out more about you than you may want them to know.- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... neomi
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This is a reply to # 1,121,426gilda i think i send you a message. check your inbox.
in the past few weeks him and i been talking for little over an hour everyday before bed because he is busy with work. i dont want to smother or be too available like u said but also not play games.
the romance book i read commented on talking on the phone for 10 min and i found that quite funny but yet wondering do others do this?
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- don't do it!!!!! roooth
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This is a reply to # 1,119,952I mean that in a playful way and here's why: you say you hate denying your emotions: you don't have to deny them. You can show him in every way possible. But this moment, this anticipation is the sweetest part of an early relationship. You could take the option to draw it out, enjoy every torturous, delicious moment as it builds and builds. It sounds like he's digging you so this is a good thing! :-)
Of course if that sounds awful to you, sure you can go ahead and tell him, but it's just like teasing in sex - it's torturous but wonderful. I say enjoy every moment! See who'll burst first - maybe it will be him!!! :-)Advertisement
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Edited UserX
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MoreThis is a reply to # 1,119,952If you love somebody then tell them! What is so hard about that? Is not telling them going to make them love you back? Absolutely not! There are never any guarantees that others will share your feelings. Nonetheless, if that is how you feel then why are you holding back? Life is far too short for such nonsense as the cat 'n mouse games that most couples play. And just look at what happens in the vast majority of relationships! Is that what you want? So what if it is scary! You can be scared and tell him anyway! If you told him and he were to be scared away simply from an honest expression of your feelings, is that really someone that you want to be in relationship with? And just when would be that 'perfect' moment to tell him anyway? And how would you feel if something happened and you never got the chance to convey the love that you feel? Of course actions speak louder than words, although the words are also important. If they weren't then it wouldn't be such a big deal for you to tell him yourself, now would it? If you want to build a solid foundation to your relationships, you have to be truly yourself and have the courage to honestly and openly express who you are. If he is unable to accept that, it is a reflection on him rather than on you and you have lost nothing at all by telling him how you really feel. If you insist on playing it safe, then be satisfied with having the sort of relationship that most people have because that is most likely precisely what you will get!
And here... Have a video to send him if you need one, lol!
I THINK I LOVE YOU!
I'm sleeping
And right in the middle of a good dream
Then all at once I wake up
From something that keeps knocking at my brain
Before I go insane
I hold my pillow to my head
And spring up in my bed
Screaming out the words I dread ....
"I think I love you!" (I think I love you)
This morning, I woke up with this feeling
I didn't know how to deal with
And so I just decided to myself
I'd hide it to myself
And never talk about it
And did not go and shout it
When you walked into the room .....
"I think I love you!" (I think I love you)
I think I love you
So what am I so afraid of?
I'm afraid that I'm not sure of
A love there is no cure for
I think I love you
Isn't that what life is made of?
Though it worries me to say
I've never felt this way
Believe me
You really don't have to worry
I only want to make you happy
And if you say
Hey, go away, I will
But I think better still
I'd better stay around and love you
Do you think I have a case?
Let me ask you to your face
Do you think you love me?
I think I love you
So what am I so afraid of?
I'm afraid that I'm not sure of
A love there is no cure for
I think I love you
Isn't that what life is made of?
Though it worries me to say
I've never felt this way
I don't know what I'm up against
I don't know what it's all about
I've go so much to think about
Hey!I think I love you!
So what am I so afraid of?
I'm afraid that I'm not sure of
A love there is no cure for
I think I love you
Isn't that what life is made of?
Though it worries me to say
I've never felt this way
I think I love you!
So what am I so afraid of?
I'm afraid that I'm not sure of
A love there is no cure for
I think I love you
Isn't that what life is made of?
Though it worries me to say
I've never felt this way
- Re: [video/audio embedded] Oh, For P... gilda
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This is a reply to # 1,121,145The poster needs to listen to the "caution" voice in her head...one cannot declare to be in "love" when one barely KNOWS the "beloved"; it's still just projection and infatuation at this point when 2 people are finding out who the other really is.
I loved the partidge family song, but there are too many people willing to take advantage of honest, love-hungry women with stars in their eyes. When SHE feels COMFORTABLE saying "I love you", then that is the right time.- Re: [video/audio embedded] Oh, For P... neomi
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- Edited UserX
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This is a reply to # 1,121,367YOU are the one who is defining love as 'projection' and 'infatuation'! That is NOT what jellybean81 said! Perhaps YOU are the one who is projecting? Just what are YOU'RE qualifications for defining what LOVE really is? Jellybean81 asked a simple question...
"How do you tell someone that you think you may be falling in love?" And even went on to say, "It drives me NUTS looking into his eyes and being in his arms and not being able to say those words!! I never felt this way about anyone (even with my ex husband!!!)" And also, "...I know what I feel and I HATE having to deny my emotions."
Are you suggesting that she was felt even less than this 'projection' and 'infatuation' with her ex-husband, too?! And should she keep on doing something that she, herself, indicated is driving her NUTS and that she HATES?! And the 'caution' that you state is in her head seems like it is more in YOUR head! And who, prey tell, said that she was 'love-hungry' anyway? YOU are reading all sorts of things into jellybean81's post that simply are not there! The only concerns that she expressed are that the feelings won't be returned and that she might drive him away. Seems to me that she is wanting to give love at least as much as she wants it returned! And as far as her COMFORT, she doesn't sound very comfortable by keeping her feelings in now anyway!
Just who are you anyway, Gilda? Don't tell me, let me guess, lol! You're a therapist I bet!
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- Re: Wait Just A Minute There, Gilda.... neomi
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lets not get hostile on gilda. She is AMAZING! and I respect her answer and I believe in it 100%
I jus think she is speaking the truth
- I'm not a therapist, but will take i... gilda
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,121,873"Are you suggesting that she was felt even less than this 'projection' and 'infatuation' with her ex-husband, too?!" Uh, are they STILL together? How long did it last? The fact that he is an "ex" speaks for itself.
"BUT at the same time I scared of getting hurt! I dont want to say it and end up scaring him away either!" Jellybean voices her own hesitancy; that's why I say she might wait until she's sure of the reaction. If she doesn't mind that look of love turning into a horrified expression of fear, rejection and "let-me-outta-here!" in response to her premature declaration of love, go to it!
- Edited UserX
16 y
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This is a reply to # 1,122,178"If she doesn't mind that look of love turning into a horrified expression of fear, rejection and "let-me-outta-here!" in response to her premature declaration of love, go to it!"
Question...
If a man is 'horrified' when a woman voices her feelings of love for him why would she want to be with him anyway?
- Edited UserX
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This is a reply to # 1,119,952Why don't you sit back and enjoy the moment while it last!
Don't go telling anything. Wait your partner to do it first!
What is the hurry?
Make it last as long as possible. The feeling may never come again.
Good luck
- Re: Telling someone that you are fal... neomi
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