Re: Whats the best outcome here? -need some good advice

I moved in with them mainly because we both needed a roomate so we could get away from the bad situations we were previously in. I told him from the beginning it was not going to be a marriage situation. I resent the idea my boyfriend has to raise two children, I feel I am much more mature than he is! He is the one who thinks its ok to quit his job to go on a trip with his friends without even having another job lined up.

You are right all these responsibilities are too much for me, thats the whole problem! I feel he needs to be more responsible and take the weight off me. Like I said, I was looking for a roomate situation more than a MARRIAGE situation. Im not ready to be married, actually I never want to be.

And I didnt say I didnt know what it was like to BE a child, I just dont know what its like to care for one. I remember being a child very well. It was misery (i had a bad time) I feel sorry for him, because Ive been there(minus the spoiled thing).

The reason my post sounded so defensive, was because its like, yes, Im an adult and I should care for the kid, I get it, but I dont think I owe him what his mother and father owe him. I treat him well, and as an outsider to the family, I feel thats all that should be expected of me, not the majority of the responsibility for him, just because his mother doesnt "feel like it".

Of course, now that his father is jobless, I suppose he will have more time to spend with him.