Re: Whats the best outcome here? -need some good advice

Yikes...that doesn't sound like a simple situation that someone can tell you what to do... if it was really something you wanted it might be possible to work through it but it seems that deep down what you desire in life does not mesh at all with this situation. BTW, don't feel guilty for all that you want in life that does not include kids. I also have the absense-of-maternal-instinct and happily found me a hubby that is content to live our lives without kids. This works for me; I have many visions of things that I will do in this life and kids do not fit into the mix at all! That's just how it is. It sounds like you know what you want to do already and the only thing is that it will be hard on your boyfriend when you leave. It is always difficult to hurt those we care about.... :-(

Good luck.