My 16 yr old has been called out!

Apparently this kid has been bullying my son. He's called him out and so far there has been no violence.

I just found out about this tonight. My son has never been in a fight...ever. My husband is not what you call macho, and has never taught my son the art of defense (or offense). My son is overweight...apparently the other kid is more so. My son does not have siblings so he has never had to defend himself. His friends have always been pacifist nerds.

So tonight I find out that there has been some instigation. My son is all for getting in a fight with this guy. My husband, who has always had an edge (but has never fought anyone) is supporting him.

I'm a woman, so I'm all for not doing this. I saw a friend of mine in high school lose a kidney from having two guys kick the crap out of him (we were in Croatia in 1973, and they were two illiterate farmers). So, even though that was a weird situation, in a strange place, it was the first violence I've ever experienced. I understand the very real nature of fighting, and the costs involved.

So...I'm not sure how to deal with this or how to counsel my son (and husband). I end up sounding like "a woman".

I guess I'm looking for other men's view on this, or mother's of sons. I abhor violence in any form, but I guess I can understand the spirit of a young man. I feel very maternal and guarded.

I need some help to resolve my fear here, or I want my fear validated.

Thanks for you help.

Molly