Re: Is it true? Is he a narcissist?

My heart goes out to you 90837, as well as the hearts of the people here.

I think you've realized you need to leave. Do what Soulful Survivor said, document everything, starting now. Check with your state laws and see if you are able to record phone conversations. I did this and it was a very good thing to have done. Keep a log of everything. I kept logs of when he was home to show the court how little time he spent with his children, this was important. Just do it. It will also help you to get your mind onto this, another project, rather than focusing so much on your pain.

It is truly better for your children to be away from him. The younger they are when you leave, the better. If I were to do it all over again, when I got the divorce I would have left the state so that he would have had even less contact with them. But, each of us has to do what is best for the situation.

Take off your nice gloves, and put on your boxing gloves, you are going to need them. You must be tough, tough, tough. Let you mama instincts take control and protect your babies. Be mama bear. It isn't easy to be not nice anymore cause we try so hard to be extra nice to please these NPD people who cannot be pleased no matter what, that it's hard for us to stop being nice. You may have found out by now that when you are not nice, he is much nicer to you, backs down a little.

Don't let him know what you are doing, be careful, set up all your ducks in a row, get the best lawyer you can find, take SS's advice, set your goals and head out. You can do it. We've done it here, and it's the best thing we ever did.

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