Re: Growing up with a narcissistic mother

Thank you all for posting! To answer your posts:
27214--Yes, often it takes the wisdom of age to understand and sort through things.

Molly--I was just pointing out that kids don't have the option of walking away as adults do. I generally don't talk about my mother to the relatives--just bite my tongue. Such as the time my aunt said "your mother took such good care of herself". NOT! She smoked heavily (quit 10 years before she died) and drank heavily and ended up with lung and liver cancer plus Alzheimer's. I commend you for being at your husband's side as he dealt with his difficult childhood. And, no, it doesn't sound harsh to say that he was relieved when she died. I, for one, didn't cry when my mother died.

Yes, been there done that, it was up to my father to do something but he took the coward's way out--even telling us to let her say and do whatever she wanted so she wouldn't yell at him later! Foster care, yes, could be worse. Even so, in the 60s child abuse was considered to be broken bones and/or a maiming physical injury. So it was doubtful that Child Protective Services would ever have intervened.

Alikat--Good observations! Tweet