I also have 4 little ones..My oldest is in 1st grade..and my youngest is 3..I had the I.U.D. for 3 yrs 8 mnth..I had lots of problems..So i had it removed back in march..now i'm back to square 1..I dont want to permanently stop have kids..I might want one later on..My husband will not wear condoms..I feel like we are on the same boat the only difference is the fact that i had the I.U.D. and you never got it before..I'm not ready for baby #5 and i dont know what to do...Us female put up with so much..They need to make a male birthcontrol..something that will control the sperm..something....