reocurrent bad dreams..help 
#622
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so maybe i should just say 'nightmares'?
altho i assosicate nightmares with scary feelings, the feelings in these dreams are not scary, but painful always the same:
anxiety, trapped, belittled, frustrated, my heart in pain...
my ex who abruptly broke up our relationship (long distance relationship which was very strong and more meaningful that anything i've had in yrs)and left me in shock...keeps appearing in my dreams. sometimes as my friend (which confuses me) sometimes as totally evil,manipulative and twisted and out to hurt me..i try to wake mylsef up from these dreams some nights. i want him gone. i want to forget. i wrote him out of my life almost completely now, i know it sounds cruel but this is the only way i could deal with the pain, yet he keeps coming back in my dreams. after breaking it off abrubtly, he wanted to remain friends, i felt like my heart was ripped out yet he wanted to be friends? so now i feel like i'm haunted. im told it's my subconscious trying to deal with it, but i don't understand the dreams. i've moved on, so has he and yet, these ghost images - my dreams...out of no where, especially when i've gone weeks not thinking about it and feel great. then boom. i wake up feeling horrible, in emotional pain and it stays with me all day. i want my life back! when i get a grip on it in reality he takes it away in dream!
why is this happening?
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- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help gracey
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Dear 622,
It has happened to me too.
I don't know why it happens, but I think it has to do with unresolved issues. If you ignore somethin in you consious mind, it is bound to come up in the unconsious mind...when you sleep.
Write in a journal about him, talk about it with a friend. Don't ignore his existence completely. After a while it will be less of an Evil in your life. Also, Liver Flushes get out old emotions. Check the Liver Flush Forum , the liver is the emotional organ. Therapy is so expensive, but it can help if you need someone more professional to talk to.
Take care,
gracey
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- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help ocean
21 y
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This is a reply to # 601,834thanks gracey, i'm pondering my 10th flush. very hesitant, which i'm sure means i really need it now!
i do, the tension in that region is high.
and yes, everyone tells me the same thing so far. but i always thought that what you put your mind on it will be more?
i'm afraid to write about him if by some chance i will give him any more engery this way. i've already wasted a long time giving him energy, while he took and i gave and slowly became invisible.
i know tho, i have to get it out. i'll get journal. a black one in color to represent grief...and when i'm done i'll burn it!
- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help ocean
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- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help Lapis
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This is a reply to # 601,831You have maybe moved on physically but is it possible you have not emotionally? From a physical level you could try a series of cleanses. Specifically a Colon Cleanse in this case. The colon "holds onto" cellular memories. How is your intestinal health? Transit time, etc? Do you have any other physical symptoms as this can be a sign of what emotions are involved and then clues can be given on how to transmute the emotions involved.
Emotions such as fear, anger, sadness, etc. What do you experience and to what degree?
Is there forgiveness issues???Advertisement
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- thanks... ocean
21 y
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This is a reply to # 601,836hi lapis, i'm currently colon cleansing with hh.
not getting anything but good bm's and some parasites here and there...the usual. i've also started adding caprilic acid today for candida.
Liver Flush is coming...i can't get myself to do it tho! im just feeling stuck, which is more reason to do it, i know.
these dreams are horrible tho. they strike me when i'm on my way up again...out of no where. so like gracey recommended i will invest in a journal... and then do some sort of my own ceremony to rid of it when i'm done.
forgiveness...well that's a tough one. i did forgive. i had to stay with him for a couple weeks after he ditched me...and i suffered, but i did forgive him. i had to since i hate conflict. altho, there is a difference in forgiving and being friends. i find the relationship turned toxic and so i chose not to remain friends due to the fact that i need to heal. i finally feel like i have a choice, a say in this. before i felt trapped even tho i loved him with all my heart. since we did have a very strong bond i just worry that it might be him thinking of me or trying to somehow contact me through dream...and i don't want that....but then maybe i'm just giving him too much power.
i'll try writing my dreams for now.
- thanks... ocean
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- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help Tracey
21 y
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This is a reply to # 601,831Ocean, I remember suggesting something that seemed to work for a woman back on Dream Forum #1. She was in a very similar situation to yours and would repeatedly have dreams about her ex that made her feel awful.
I suggested she do some cleansing, of course. But I also asked her to ask herself a question upon falling asleep at night. For starters you might ask, as you climb into bed and start to feel sleepy, "Please give me a dream that shows me why I am having these dreams about my ex". Pay attention and write down any dreams that you may have that night. Basically, ask for clarification. The intensity and the honesty of emotion with which you ask will help to get you some answers. Like - if you TRULY desire to get to the bottom of this and heal this emotional hurt - put that feeling into your dream request. From there you might want to ask yourself other questions....or you may want to ask, "Please give me a healing dream tonight".
Oh there are a ton of things you could ask. But I'd definitely start with the request to UNDERSTAND what is going on. I do believe you can sort this all out!
I hope you try it and get back to us, Ocean.
Tracey
- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help ocean
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- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help ocean
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so, i went to bed last nite repeating untill i fell asleep for my dream to provide me with some answers...and to my dissapointment i woke up this morning and couldn't remember a thing, exept for that inner knowing that
it was a very deep dream. it's like my subconscious is catching onto my trick and hiding things even deeper.
have you noticed sometimes that the biggest struggle we ever have is with ourselves?
anyway, i must be jinxed cause i spent all morning thinking about him while i tried to remember the damn dream.
i've been afraid to do this dream memory thing exactly for that reason! maybe better luck tonite? :-)- Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help just_peachy
21 y
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This is a reply to # 601,866I've been through very similar many times and it seems if I just keep on open mind and stay willing to face myself and my emotions, the answers will come.
Now that you're consciously willing to work through this, it may be that your subconscious is re-sorting through a lot of the emotions for you. Keep asking for understanding and stay willing to face whatever arises and when your conscious mind is ready, your subconscious will speak through dreams you remember.
Good luck and sweet dreams! - Re: reocurrent bad dreams..help Tracey
21 y
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This is a reply to # 601,866I agree with Peachy, Ocean!
I don't think our 'subconscious' wants to hide stuff from us - it's our absolutely Conscious selves that want to! Your subconscious is you ally. It might actually help you to have a little talk with your Conscious self. You see, it (our Conscious self houses the Ego and it's got ego problems! ha) - your Conscious self - wants power, it wants to rule over everything because it gets afraid that, well, it won't be the ruler anymore! Power struggles. So, if you simply talk to your Conscious mind and say, "Hey, you're not going to be usurped, I just want to have a nice balance here. My Subconscious has a lot of valuable stuff to say, you'll see! I'm asking you nicely to please allow all the wisdom that is stored inside of me to come to light and that will help you with your job, Conscious self!"
You know....that sort of talk! Put your Conscious self at ease. This will benefit him/her too! Definitely.
Keep it up Ocean, I know you'll have an amazing breakthrough if you do.
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21 y
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This is a reply to # 601,871mental note: do not lecture conscious mind out loud in public! LOL!
thanks everyone! :-)- I'm chuckling! ha! You're sooo right... Tracey 21 y 1,530
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