Maybe you have a fear of intimacy and subconciously push people away because you think you are not worthy of a long term relationship (low self-esteem due to CONSCIENTOUSNESS). Conscientousness is a very good quality in a person and will be met with a lot of jealousy by other people, but don't be fooled, it is a very desirable and rare quality, but not everyone can appreciate it (it is very often seen by other people as a challenge to THEIR ego and self-esteem). We learn "social graces" from childhood. If our "childhood" was not a good learning environment, then it is not our fault, but it doesn't make us any less of a person. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

Do you want one? Romance is a blast, a relationship can be, but what's going on as far as your side? Some people may put out a "no thanks" vibe without even meaning to. If it's any consolation, you're still young and free! I am assuming no children.

Hi Tami Faye:

Of course you were meant to have romance in your life. I’ve heard it over and over again, that “there’s no one for me”. Or “why can’t I find just one person in this whole city” that will love me? And why is it that other people go out with someone almost every night?

I believe it’s a matter of choice. I’ve known people that for some reason put up a barrier to members of the opposite sex. Maybe they do it unconsciously, but they do it just the same. Try to be more accepting when you’re asked. And I can’t believe you haven’t been asked.

Everybody makes mistakes. I’ve made so many of them, I lost count years ago. When I was in the army, I was feeling all alone. I didn’t know anyone, and I wanted to go on a date really bad. I was sitting at a table, watching other couples having fun together. I felt so down I couldn’t stand it. Then someone walked up behind me and said “hello”. I made some off hand remark that wasn’t very cordial. And when I turned around, there was this very pretty girl just turning around and walking away, shrugging her shoulders. I was so dumbfounded, I couldn’t even say a single word. I just sat there with my mouth hanging open, watching her walk out the door. I felt like such a fool. But I’ve learned to take advantage of situations that come along. And they do come along from time to time.

When someone opens the door of opportunity for you, say yes. If someone asks you to go on an overnight camping trip, or an overnight road trip, say yes. Of course that doesn’t mean you should go with just anyone that comes along. But be ready to say yes to someone you think you might like. No one is perfect. We’re all flawed in some way, it’s want makes us human.

I almost always said yes when a woman asked me out. I felt flattered and it really gave me a feeling of euphoria. I may have decline to go out with her again, depending on her personality, but I almost always went the first time, because looks don’t count nearly as much as what’s on the inside.

Be sure to take the necessary precautions, but say yes more often. Just be yourself. Have fun and enjoy. :)

T

Romance is highly overrated, take it from me. I concentrated on fun dates, spontaneous dates...that lead to a super marriage. Even our sex wasn't "romantic"...but more athletic and performance-driven which is absolutely what guys want most. Romance, in my humble opinion, is movie stuff and doesn't really matter. You can't stay "romantic" longterm. I can have as much fun with my honey at Wendy's for lunch than I can have at the local soft-music steakhouse. leave romance for Hollywood, not real life.