Doctor convince my G/F that the Mire... 
Desperate Boyfriend
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My G/F has been suffering from some pretty obvious mood swings ever since her Mirena was inserted last Nov.
She finally went to see a Dr to have it removed, and said Dr convinced her that her mood swings, depressive moods and the way she treats me is all down to "stress" and the fact that she is a "single mum" with her own business.
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This is a reply to # 1,407,899Frustrating, isn't it. I truly believe that someday the truth will come out and the doctors will eventually have to believe it. I'm sorry for you that it's probably not going to be anytime in the near future. Best wishes to you.
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This is a reply to # 1,407,991No mate, she didn't.
She believed what the Dr said, and put it all down to stress. The Dr prescribed counselling.
To compound matters, we just had a 90min breakup call. It was a loving, wonderful and memory rich conversation. But a very emotionally and physically draining conversation at the same time. I feel exhausted. She starts counselling on Jun 1.
The door has been left open. I told her I love her. She knows if she needs anything from me at all, I am simply a phone call away. She said she just needs to be alone, and she can't explain why.
I'm not giving up, but for now there isn't much I can do. S is on her own from here until she reaches out.
Ladies, thank you for your time, advice and understanding.
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Oh My. Sorry about your night. Has she read any of the posts on this site? I felt exactly the same way as her after removal aka. the 'crash'. I didn't even want to be around my kids. It's hormones. I feel positive about that. It passed quickly and I hope she will come around soon. May want to send her flowers today. My hubby came home with them on Fri. and it really made my day. Good luck to you both and hope she'll be back at your side soon.- Re: Doctor convince my G/F that the ... Desperate Boyfriend
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This is a reply to # 1,408,196Thanks for the reply Wnadjmom, but she didn't have it removed. The Dr convinced her not to.
And has we don't live together, there isn't much I can do now she has decided that she needs to be alone.
It's odd, but during the call yesterday, she even said that she isn't looking forward to being alone but she currently wants is to be at home, alone and anti-social.
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This is a reply to # 1,408,591Sounds like how I felt last week, but I did snap out of it for now. I work with the public and it is so hard to push through and keep going, but it helps to keep thoughts away from the negative. Does she have any girlfriends she is close to and could talk to? Maybe you could give them a call and ask them to help. Sometimes we women need our girls instead of our guys. No offense to you, just a woman thing. If she is really depressed, maybe she could get in to see a Dr. sooner. It's not fair that she should suffer any longer than possible. You may want to do a little checking on St. Johns Wort (herb) and chamomile tea. I've read it is good for our mood swings and over all well being. Just a thought.
Has she been looking here herself? I can tell you it has helped me a whole lot knowing that there are others experiencing the same side effects as me. I don't feel so alone and insane with all of this. Best wishes.
Also, I think my Dr. said the winning sentence. She said to me "If it's affecting the quality of your life you should take it out. Never know until we do". Best decision for me personally. I think if your gal reads thru these posts enough she will agree. These days we all need to take control of our own healthcare decisions. After all, It's our bodies trying to tell us something, our Drs. have no clue how we feel.
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Hi wandjmom,
Thankyou for your advice. You mentioned a lot so if you don't mind I'll quote so I don't miss anything and waste your efforts in responding.
"Does she have any girlfriends she is close to and could talk to?"
She does. One said "it's just bad timing", another said it's all good, your just stressed. Its to the point now she has back flipped on our relationship so much that she is frightened to tell her parents about our weekend toghether and her friends to a large degree.
"Maybe you could give them a call and ask them to help."
Thanks, but I'm just in that circle. As I said, we don't live together, so this would be seen as an intrusion I'm sure.
"maybe she could get in to see a Dr. sooner"
My company has given me 3 free counselling sessions. I maanged to make the appointments for her next Monday, then every Tue after that. She thanked me. On Monday she said that she didn't want to take up the offer, as she believed that she needs more than 3. So 1 Jun is the soonest she could get in to see one that she could aford.
"You may want to do a little checking on St. Johns Wort (herb) and chamomile tea. I've read it is good for our mood swings and over all well being. Just a thought."
Thanks. However I fear that the time for this was 3 weeks ago. After our 90 min call yesterday, there is no longer any contact. I feel that if I keep making contact to give her little bits of well intentioned advice here and there she will get resentful towards me.
"Has she been looking here herself?"
I sent her links to this site last Nov. She agreed then it was a possibility.
""If it's affecting the quality of your life you should take it out. Never know until we do""
I agree totally.....now, here's the really annoying bit. She has a Dr who is a great friend. A dr who believes that the Mirena is a bad thing and advises against it. She didn't go to him because he is such a great family Dr / friend that she didn't want to open her legs for him.
Wandjmom, thanks again for taking the time to write and suggest some good ideas. I just don't know what to do next, other than wait.
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This is a reply to # 1,408,833Sometimes It may just be best to back away and wait. Sounds like ya'll really had a biggie. Know that you have done all you can do and hope that someday she will realize how much you care for her. It's evident here. I think you are right, if you keep hounding on her she may get resentful. I know I would probably feel the same way. She is the one living in her body and if this is what she wants to do you have to respect that. Sooner or later, if she is having these side effects and they are really getting to her, she will seek out help too. You have given her all the info she needs and it's up to her to look into it. I hope all gets better soon.
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Dear Desperate Boyfriend,
You should give her the space. You are correct, if you continue to contact her, she will resent you more. I know this from experience. I made my fiance move out of my house in March. The more he would "hound me" the more I resented him. He finally backed off the last couple weeks and I have had some moments where I really wanted to talk to him and actually spent some time with him this evening. Give her the space. As the saying goes, if it was meant to be, it will be. I know this is hard, but you have to move forward from here. Do not stop living. I felt much better knowing that my fiance was doing things. It took a lot of guilt off my shoulders if he was being active and not just sitting around moping about the situation. As her stressors lessen, she will feel better. I have had my Mirena out for 1 month tomorrow. I have felt good for the last week, but I have been going to counseling and began acupunture last week. I am not convinced my situation was totally Mirena related as I also had a great deal of stressors, but it did not hurt to have it out, just in case. Hope you can find peace.- Re: Doctor convince my G/F that the ... Desperate Boyfriend
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This is a reply to # 1,408,902Hello Joy,
One thing I would like to say to you and everyone else who has offered me advice...trust me when I say "your words are not falling on deaf ears". No contact from me, irrespective of how counter intuative it is. It's just the way it has to be.
"As her stressors lessen, she will feel better."
That's my thinking, and at the moment I'm one of them.
"I am not convinced my situation was totally Mirena related as I also had a great deal of stressors"
Again, this to is my belief. Mirena isn't 100% the cause, but being an engineer, I can't see the sense of treating a problem of an emotional nature from a suspect "baseline". The Mirena should be removed, if not for her emotional state, then for all the other reasons what sadly are posted all too frequently here.
Anyway, I'm rambling. Thank you again Joy. Peace to you to.
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Sorry about your gal. I think it's great that you are so concerned about her health and yall's life. Stick in there. If my hubby can put up with me for 6 years on mirena you too will get your gal back. Be patient and keep up your support. It's exactly what she needs. I hope she had it out. I think mirena messes up our personalities so much that we don't even know who we are.
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