Hi, 100626,

Imagination and speculation are interesting human characteristics...perfectly legitimate and very useful. I don't think we'd get far without them.

And, no, that's not just a 'philosophical' observation.

When I read 'Hammer's' first post, and went to Humaworm.com and saw the announcement, all kinds of scenarios jumped into my head.

I found I had to make choices of what to think, and what I'd do.


Now, I'm an old warhorse...I've been 'around' a while, and seen a thing or two. I've mostly noticed my own tendency to draw conclusions that end up being all wet in the end.

I've also noticed that I can cope with facts, as they are revealed, and that I can admit to being mistaken, without losing 'face' or self-confidence.

In a way, that's what I'm here for, here on this forum...to encourage people to help themselves...to have confidence in themselves...that they can and will find answers.


In my time I've written two letters that convinced large corporations to return thousands of dollars mistakenly withheld from us. Those letters were a lot of work, and I had to be certain of the facts, truthful, and polite, long before I wrote.

Time and again I've written letters of indignation, and so on, in my mind. Each and every time I have been glad, overjoyed, that those letters were only thought about, and NOT sent.

I find the same in speaking with others, and in thinking, even about myself. There is great merit in waiting until I am certain what I want to say. Many times I have not yet received enough information.

On the other side of the coin, lots of times I have waited far too long to state my case and preference, or to simply ACT, as gracefully as I can...or to decide that I CAN'T, and get the heck out of there.

Experience teaches us, or it doesn't...and each of us is responsible for our every thought and deed. And each of us is at the perfectly appropriate stage in our learning at any given moment. We always think and do what seems best to us at the time.

If R.G. makes a mistake, I must assume that he thought it was the best thing to do at the time, for whatever reason.

I might be surprised, but that's only my point-of-view...and I can't imprint my preferences on anyone other than myself.

My husband and children and parents and extended family and friends and the whole world surprise me every day. But I am proud that I hold steady, and always do the best I can. The best I can do today is far better than the best I could a while back, believe me.

I have progessed, and that feels good.

I know, I know, I sound airy-fairy.

Rest assured that there have been moments I'd have dearly loved to give someone a smack they richly deserved...and I may someday.

But I'm glad I didn't, usually.


While R.G. is sorting out his life, I'm busy doing the smaller stuff.

It took me seventy years to get to this point of improvement....and I've got a way to go yet, but it is more fun than a barrel of monkeys. I highly recommend the trip.

My best,

Fledgling