What is the deal with females and emotions?
Emotional Literacy means being able to recognise what you are feeling, so that it doesn't interfere with thinking. It becomes another dimension to draw upon when making decisions or encountering situations. Emotional expression by contrast can mean being driven by emotions, so that it isn't possible to think. These two things are often confused, because we are still uncomfortable with the idea of the validity of feelings. Susie Orbach
Date: 10/13/2006 12:10:28 PM ( 15 y ) ... viewed 1576 times
In the past I would have dismissed or missed this phenomenon--how emotionally hard-wired I am.
Although a female, the number of female friends I have can be counted with one hand, but the number of male friends I have are too many for your appendages to sum. In addition, I seem to be more inclined to guys than girls in friendships, although sometimes I see it as a matter of personality compatibility rather than gender difference. I find pleasure in the company of male rationality, good-naturedness and unpretention. However it was not until recently that I noticed one characterisitc that set my male friends and I worlds apart--my inferior ability to contain emotions. To them, emotions are like hiccups but to me, they can be a stubborn cold--chronic and difficult to cure. An exaggeration of the degree of emotional cope-ability can be seen between my boyfriend and me. He is able to almost detach himself from the hiccups--to the degree that sometimes, he does not realize how his behaviour hurts me--but on the other hand seem ensnared by them.
I shall set out to try to investigate the basis of emotions and the tenable link between gender difference and emotionality in the next few entries.
PS: will update along the way. very busy now.
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