Hi Earthman - I would definitely go to Doc Sutter at the ask doc sutter forum - he beat cancer himself and he seems to know an awful lot and his answers are very clear and helpful. HE IS VERY KIND. I think he is the most balanced person I've read in these forums so far.
I dunno Earth - it seems to me that Oleander is so radical - there are other ways and it appears that it is so easy to make a mistake with the stuff. Just my 2 cents - it can't hurt to ask Doc what he thinks of it - maybe he's all for it - He's really great!
I hope that helps and my heart is with you - I will send light to you my friend.